His Secret Obsession -- Dating Rules Ladies Have to Follow

If you're a mature woman hoping to keep the current man you are dating interested in you, there is one rule you must always remember: Boys will always be boys. Men don't really change much even when they enter the mature dating scene. It doesn't matter what age he's at. He could be 20 or 60, but (a) he will still love the chase, and (b) he will always gravitate towards an attractive woman. Here are some tips to help you keep the new man in your life interested for the long haul.

He's making an impression to get your time and attention. It is not your job to understand how the car needed repairs or how his tire blew. Okay and what does that mean to me? Not to be cruel but he can't start off on a good foot asking you to feel sorry for him and settle for him ordering pizza and you coming over his house. Tell him politely that you understand and hope things get better. When he asks if you will come by, tell him that you were going to stay in for the night. If you start out sacrificing and making accommodations when he's supposed to be putting his best foot forward then I'm scared to know what's next.

As we humans are "wired" in a particular way with emotions and other inner systems of behavior, successfully becoming his secret obsession involves working within this hard-wired system and not imagining there is something different about this particular guy you are considering.

Take down any solo woman images from your walls and remove family photos from your bedroom. Place those photos in the living room instead. In your bedroom, have images of pairs. You can have figurines of a boy and girl kissing or artwork which features couples.

Some women tend to shy away from dating men who already have children. For women who want to have children of their own, dating a man with children is a great way to see what kind of father he already is. Does he make time for his children? Does he provide for them financially?emotionally? Is he supportive of their interests? Does he put the needs of his children first? Does he act more like a buddy or a father to his children?

There is another phenomenon at work here. If you get involved with someone who you know is not "good enough" for you, and he dumps you, you can find yourself in a strange position of having thought you were too good for him, then he dumps you, so therefore you are less than what you thought of him in the first place. It is an odd psychological effect. If you have dated much, you know what I'm talking about.

You also need to learn about his culture and how things back in his own country. It is crucial to know. If you don't, some of the things he will do, will confuse you and upset you. You can either go the your local library and find all the answers about his culture or you can search online for that same information. It will take up your time but in the long run -- its well worth it.